Are you growing with your therapy practice?
Hi Ali here from Ali’s Therapy Academy, with a little bit of help for you hopefully with self-development.
Now a lot of what I cover within the Academy is all about business. It’s working on your business. It’s thinking about marketing. It’s thinking about social media. It’s thinking about advertising. It’s thinking about Facebook pages, websites, your mission, your mind-set. It’s all about business.
I also do try and cover, and help with your self-development. I do especially at the end of the year and the beginning of the new year, probably just at six months, I talk about business retreats. I talk about reviewing. I talk about planning and looking at your business. Also to consider for yourself, we often talk about are you doing a hobby or are you running a business? It’s that one or other.
It’s very much that you sometimes, you’ve got to sort of invest in yourself to develop your business. We’re all very good in the therapy industry in training and learning new therapies and adding them to our businesses, to our practices. We’ll learn Reflexology, Hot Stone, Thai Herbal, Bach Flowers, Nutrition, Yoga, Exercises, Shell Massage, all these new techniques that we learn that we can give our clients, but we don’t then learn how to sell them. How to put them out to our clients? How to be visible to get the clients to have these new therapies?
Adding a long list of therapies to our practice but then not knowing how to get the clients to have those therapies. To help our clients with these therapies. A lot of what I share within the Academy, is helping you to get those clients through the door. As I said sometimes it’s actually a case of learning ourselves and self-development.
We often have to self-develop and grow. There’s a lot stepping out of your comfort
zone to work on and to get the business out there. We have to work on ourselves and grow ourselves. Step out and feel the fear to get our business to grow and take our business further.
What I want to discuss through today is, I really want to share my story, my experience for 2016. To share to you, and then for you hopefully you can see and understand where I’m going through and what I’m leading you to. My vision board, I always create a vision board at the end of one year for the following year, or at the start. At the start for January 2016, I created my vision board. This vision board this year was part business, part personal. I was covering both. It wasn’t just a personal, it wasn’t just a business one it was also about the personal. I knew it was time to develop on me. I knew for the business to get bigger, I’d have to work more on myself. For it to grow, It was a lot about self-development. It was things I needed to do to step out into that comfort zone, stepping into the fear.
Even a personal thing for me, in stepping into that fear, is I’ve got a fear of water, fear of drowning. Paddle boarding for me this summer has been on my bucket list and has been on my vision board for about the last two, three years. This year I’ve finally done it. It was absolute, a fun experience to do. Well to be honest, don’t think I stood upon the board for longer than two, three seconds. I just kept falling in! That got my fear of the water and fear of drowning because I just fell in so many times in that hour lol. My husband and I just had such a laugh that I got through that fear. I just had to do it to be able to knock that one off my bucket list. I had to step out of my comfort zone and face that fear. That was such a joy to do this summer.
There’s lots of stepping out of your comfort zones and feeling your fear. Whether it is paddle boarding. Whether it is the water. Whether it is talking to the public. There is lots of facing the fears there. We have to do this to grow, to develop ourselves and grow into our business. I’m quite happy with the way my therapy business works. It’s successful. It’s successful for me, and how that grows and develops. I’m also happy with the way the Academy is growing. The way it’s getting recognition within the organisations and with other therapists. It still needs work and for that to happen, I need to grow. I need to work on me, on some self-development this year.
A lot of it for me this year was spirituality. I needed to work on that. I needed to look more into that. I did a lot of that work when I was first training back in 2000 and then when the business side kicked in a few years ago, I sort of let the business side come in and took over and the spirituality dropped. It was just where I had to be, the place I had to be at that time. To be able to work within and push my business out there, years ago. I had to stop being so spiritual. I still kept that at home, but outside into the outside world. I was happy for that. The business became more of a passion. The business side of things became more of a passion for me. I was happy with that.
I knew I needed to work on that issue. I knew needed to step back into it. Also through this year of working with that, lots of things, you know how things appear in your life? Things appear for a reason? I am not and I have not been in all my sixteen years of work, have been into unicorns. It’s just one of those things. I just don’t, not developed into that. Even though loving Harry Potter and stuff, I don’t like, never been. Unicorns have been stepping into my life so much this year that I thought, “Hmm, I think it’s telling me something. This is something I need to look at.”
I also need to look at things that I have presently pushed aside. Whether it’s having readings. Whether it’s having card readings. Whether it’s chatting to somebody that receives messages and having that done. It’s something that I’ve thought, “Hmm, I need to get that done this year.” The early part of this year, this is the way I’ve worked. I’ve worked a lot more in development with myself. Reading a lot more, I’m working within those lines. I finally had a reading done this year and again she was giggling because she was saying, “Oh my God, they’re all shouting at me because they know that this might be the only chance they get to tell you, to let you know and to guide you.” They were shouting all this stuff to her, to pass on to me. Everything that she passed on was like, “Yeah, I know but I haven’t been listening. Yeah, I know but I’ve just been blanking it aside.” It was all a case of, I knew but I was just not recognising it.
It was like recognising my intuition. Recognising my inner guru. Listening to the way I’m being guided. Where I’ve been getting the messages and being guided and I’ve not been listening to it. It was all in the not listening to that. Since I’ve done that, a lot more has gone on. A lot more has opened up. A lot more has happened. It’s amazing that once you recognise that and you realise that, and I should think for a lot of you that are listening or reading this it’s, “Oh yeah. Okay Al, I do all that. I listen to that. I guide, I know my guides are on.” This is all, like I said, it’s been shut off for fifteen, sixteen years. It’s all been shut off. This is all new for me again, letting this back in. It’s interesting, but you find that things come to you, messages that you see things that come to you, that you hadn’t seen for a while.
Again, like the unicorn things, the books that are coming forward, the magazines that are coming forward, the creativity more that I’m doing. The paintings I’m creating. The messages I’m creating are all kind of more intuition and more being guided. I very much love reading and listening to webinars but I’m very, very busy taking notes. I met somebody a couple of years ago who does visualisation with notes. I’m very much into mind mapping. I love mind mapping but I’m still having to write everything out before I can mind map. I met somebody a couple of years ago that does visualisation and notes which I found really interesting. I’ve been trying to do that but still not happy. It still wasn’t the right time, I was still listing and still mind mapping. That’s the way I’ve worked.
When I was at my spa day, I’m working with a book club within the Academy for those that are in the ATA Hub, I’ve set a book club up in there. We’re reading a book a month. One of the books that we’re going through with Denise Duffield-Thomas, “Get Rich, Lucky Bitch”. Now I’ve read this book a couple of years ago, thought it was fantastic. It was great but didn’t do anything with it. Read it but didn’t do anything more.
This time I’m now working through the exercises in there. I sat in the afternoon at the spa day, going through the exercises about writing down your money blocks and I’ve had one or two in my mind. I thought this time, as I was swimming in the pool, I thought, let’s just make a note of what I think in my money blocks and then I will deal with it the next day when I nearly have the afternoon and evening completely to myself. I will sit down and write all this down. I sat there in the spa and I just listed. There was more and more was coming in the list. I’m thinking, “Hmm, Maybe I’ve got more blocks than I thought.” I was just listing all the things I have there.
The next morning, on a Thursday morning, what with having thalassotherapy, et cetera et cetera, I was going through a bit of a healing crisis on that Thursday morning. Then the Thursday afternoon, I just sat and wrote reams of the money blocks. It was interesting that it wasn’t just to do with that, it’s to do with family and friends and one thing or another. All this came out and I thought, “Blimey, this is just through reading Denise’s book, that this has happened.” As I was doing that later on when I had moved on from that and I was doing planning, again I was listing and I was doing the mind map and I was thinking, “Gosh if I could just visualise this in notes, it would be so much better than my listings.”
As I was going through Facebook groups the other day, this person, again had popped up and she said to somebody else who said that they were getting into visualised notes, that this was a good book to look at. Looked up on Amazon what this book was, great, but a bit too much for me to do right now. Quickly looked it up on eBay and someone was selling their second hand for half price. I bought it straight away. It was the right time for me to look. Right time for me to start working with visual notes. That’s a bit more of self-development with me. Is that for me to maybe to work more within my mind mapping is to have the visual notes on. The other thing I’m finding within the spirituality is again working more, go back to working with my reiki which I haven’t done. I haven’t done for a long time.
As I’m working with clients I’m listening more to what my gut says in where I work. My clients are very much black and white. They book them for a back, neck, and shoulder massage, they have that, they leave. It’s professional people and I’m comfortable with how I’ve worked for years. I’m now starting to bring a bit more intuition within my work. I’m now getting to know my clients to notice, “Well that was a bit different tonight. What was that?” We’re chatting more about that. That’s bringing more into it. Bringing more interest to it.
The other thing I’m finding as well is within self-development, is needs. The way I’m growing. When I was growing up as a child I was very much a tomboy. My brother was the quiet one, the studious one, the one that was the good little boy. I was the one that was always rushing and rushed off to hospital with all the cuts and stitches, out riding my bike, out for hours. I was very much the tomboy. Going to watch football with my dad. Playing football, all those things, when my brother stayed at home, read books and was the intellectual. I was the rough and tumble. That’s gone on through my life. I’ve ended up marrying an Army man. In our married life, first part of our married life was travelling around but all our friends were male. Lots of my friends were male. I was quite happy in their company and they were happy with me because I was just one of the boys. I was talking sports with them. I was drinking pints with them. Hmm…too much information! lol
I was just a good mate to them. I was just one of the friends. Again, that was in that life style. When we had children, I have two sons. Again, I have that relationship that’s fine. I’m very comfortable with, and what we do with them again now, we’re all into sport, we’re all into computers, and we’re into gadgets. It’s all those things. One thing I have lacked through my life, I’ve got my mother, but since I’ve left home, my one thing I’ve have lacked is female company. I don’t have the daughter. I lack the female company. The Army wives, we flitted in and out of one another’s lives. We were together a year if we’re lucky, so the relationships have never been long. It’s the same as what I have now.
When I was growing up all my friends that I had were all male. My school friends, most of them were male. We’ve got the same now, so again I’m trying to develop that feminine side of me. It took me to the age of fifty to like pink!. I’m fifty three now, liking unicorns. It’s the late development of the feminine side is now coming out. I’m trying to build relationships now with females, with women. Some of it is working and some of it is not. Probably some of it is not because of my fault where I can be too clingy. I can be a bit paranoid. I’m not sure on how to work that relationship. Some people, women, understand it, some don’t. The ones that do obviously stay with me. The ones that don’t disappear. They come in, teach me a lesson in life and then move on.
This is part of what I’m sharing, is that I listen to the people and they say they go off and they have weekends off with their daughters. That they go off and have a spa day with their daughter or they have a shopping trip with their daughter. A lot of these things I do on my own. I’m quite happy with that. Don’t get me wrong, this isn’t all poor me, pity me article. I’m happy with that. What I’m saying is, you’re never too old to learn. Whether it’s within your business, but certainly don’t put off in learning on self-development and finding out more about you, about yourself. Certainly this year for me, 2016, this year has been all about finding out about me. On my spa day, one of the classes was about spirituality and I’m like, “Okay, I have to look at this. I have to go to this.” I’m working on spirituality. For goodness sake, at spa day one of the talks there is about this!
How many more signs do I need that this is what I’ve got to keep working on? Interesting things I’ve been finding. I’ve been doing self-development tests that you can find on the website. There’s a five language test. I’ve found out about this one on a podcast that I listened to. Sophie Jewry, The Brand Queen, mentioned this. The Five Language test. It goes though how you can test yourself, or you can test it for your child. You can find how out in the language of how you perceive and how you like things. Whether you prefer touch. Whether you prefer affirmations or the spoken word. Whether you prefer gifts. Whether you prefer service or whether you prefer quiet quality time.
If you’ve got a partner, what will they do for you, for you to feel that real benefit, for you to show your appreciation? Is it if they give you gifts? Is it that they tell you that they love you or show their appreciation to you? Is it by them doing things for you? Is it just spending time with you? Is it showing affection in public or showing affection at home? It’s all these different things. It’s the words of touch, affirmation, gifts, service, or quality time.
You go through this and you find out what it is you like. You can also get your partner to take the test. You can find out how to show him and what he’ll appreciate and what you do for him. Whether it is when you tell him you love him. Whether it is that you touch, hold hands more. Whether it is just spend more time with him. You can also find how you can make that connection with your child by doing that test for your child. Just think what you could do if you could use it within your clients. I’m not saying tell your client to take the test. There’s also questions and things that you can ask within your own client notes to find out what they want. You can mention the test to your clients to help them understand themselves.
Does your client want the touch? Does your client want the positive words to them, saying, “Well done on reaching a goal.” Would your client like a gift? It’s things in how you can use some of these questions that you can bring into your consultation. Bring into your work that you can find out more on how you can help your client. It might also be a case of that you’re just wanting to share this information with your client so that the client can use it for themselves and their own relationship. Even if they’re single. It’s the five languages test by Gary Chapman. Have a look at that and see if that might help you.
The other one that I found is really good is, “What Is Your Spiritual Archetype?” and this is by Christian Sinclair. This is fabulous. You find out what your spiritual type is, but it also tells you then about the chakras, essential oils, the crystals and the struggles that you receive about being that type. I’m just going to tell you quickly a little bit. My spiritual archetype is the mythologist. The mythologist is, “I relish in the magic and existence of unicorns, fairies and wizards.( I’m well into Harry Potter.) They are even manifested in fantasy and books, Sci fi, and Gods and legends. It goes into much more detail and it is me to a T. It’s just so interesting when you start finding out about yourself.
Remember we see them in Facebook, take these tests to find out your favourite colour, to find out your favourite food. All sorts of things. They’re great to do. Some of them are fun, some of them are a bit more, find out your spiritual guide. Find out your animal guide. Things like that. They’re great fun to do but some of them can also really help in the way you’re growing and in a way, your self-development. Those two are certainly ones that I would really recommend in having a go and finding out about yourself or your family, whatever.
It’s really interesting. In the end really I’m saying today is to not only learn about your therapies. Also look at more in self-development within you. Whether it is finding out more of what your archetype is or what the language that you do best in. Whether it’s just finding out in how you work. Whether it is facing your fear or whether it’s dealing with the mind monkeys. Dealing with manifesting. Working with your money blocks. Whatever it is, always be willing and open up to learn.
It might not be the right time now. Just make a note of it, put it to one side because it might come back years later. Might come back, weeks, months, or years later, that you’ll come back to it and it will be the right time to work at that point. You’ll know that because you’ll be getting the signs. Within our industry, we know what these signs are even if you keep ignoring them for sixteen years, you will eventually, it will all come together.
That’s my wise owl wisdom to you today is to always be up for self-development. To help yourself grow. To help your business grow.
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